When Sweet Is Sad and Adorable Is Ironic
Published September 06, 2009 @ 07:44AM PT

At the Sustainable Food blog last week, substitute blogger Mike posted a photo that instantly made me sad. I assume, of course, that it was intended to be--and that most see it as--adorable. And there are photos out there of cute, chubby-cheeked kids and sweet-faced, beautiful cows that would bring out my "aww" reflex. But this isn't one of them.
Because I'm an animal advocate, or rather because of what I know as an animal advocate, what I see in this photo is great irony and sadness. I see an adorable, surely much-loved young boy whose parents would certainly protect him fiercely and at all costs. And across from him I see an an equally feeling (but numbered) being who will be denied that chance at family over and over again, who will never have that deeply desired chance to protect and love her own children. That morning, the toddler's parents likely served him a glass of milk with his breakfast, for which cows just like this one not only suffer and die but also cry out as their own babies are whisked away for brutal slaughter (the same brutal slaughter for which they are eventually destined as well).
We take kids to see farmed animals at fairs and farms as such, and we encourage them to look at the animals, to observe them, to touch them (don't worry--they're gentle, we explain). But we do not tell them the truth about what has happened, is happening, and will happen to that very same gentle animal after the family has moved along. We present our own children to these animals, expecting them to regale and entertain our young ones, while we systematically and repeatedly rip away their own children--their babies--and kill them.
And there's something so terribly sad, so terribly wrong about that.
The "aww" photos for me are the ones taken at sanctuaries, where animals are living out their lives in safety, and where people are educated about who they are, as our fellow animals and as unique individuals--with histories, friendships, grudges, likes, dislikes, joys, fears, thoughts, and deeply felt emotions--not about what we can selfishly get from them.
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Photo by Flickr user Diane Neile
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I knew what this post was going to be about the second I saw the photo.
Posted by Lisa Smolen on 09/06/2009 @ 08:00AM PT
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Quote The "aww" photos for me are the ones taken at sanctuaries, where animals are living out their lives in safety, and where people are educated about who they are, as our fellow animals and as unique individuals--with histories, friendships, grudges, likes, dislikes, joys, fears, thoughts, and deeply felt emotions--not about what we can selfishly get from them.
That is So TRUE for me too
Beautiful animal so much feeling in her eyes
Posted by Fabianne Coomerawel on 09/06/2009 @ 08:04AM PT
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I find it sad that we are not allowed to educate children about the crueltites of using animals to satisfy our needs.
Because of the limitations of what educators are allowed to say, it is up to the parents to teach anti-cruelty and where their food comes from. Most parents are very ignorant about the subject themselves, and the traditions and history of our food have continued for generations because of the lack of information and truth.
With the age of the Internet, things are now changing. Twenty years ago we did not have videos of slaughter and abuse of animals. We did not have computers available for every person, whether it be in their homes, or use of free Internet at the public libraries. The information is just now being made available to people at a very young age, and we have the capabilities of sharing our information with a larger audience.
I also grew up with a love of animals (thanks to my mom), but an ignorant view of the truth. We spent our time at farms, zoos, aquariums, Sea World, and had many pets growing up. We ate meat and dairy and didn't think much about where it came from, although in the back of my mind, I wondered, even as a small child. I would reject the meat and be forced to sit for hours until I finished every piece.
Visiting places because of my love of animals was a learning experience and although I did not know that the animals were not being treated well by being in these places, it made me research further to make sure that they were. I grew up with a family that ran a wildlife rehab center and put up bluebird houses for the threatened Western Bluebird in our area, hoping to bring the numbers back up. Yet, we ate meat. We were disconnected from the reality. I had a hard time feeding the raptors dead rats, but it taught me a lot.
We now have the information and the Internet to get the information out there. Schools will not allow it, but the children do not always rely on formal education to learn.
I recently visited a daycare to read to the toddlers (age 2-4) and during my visit, one of the children saw a spider and started to scream, which caused all of the children to cower and scream. The director of the daycare got out a papertowel to save the day and went to "squish it" when I stopped her. I asked if I could take it outside instead. She allowed me to pick it up and carry it to the door, but I stopped to let the children see it in my hand before I let it go. They were amazed. They all wanted to hold it and wanted to know why I didn't kill it. I told them that it did not want to be inside, except to keep warm, and probably had a family waiting for it outside. I told them that the spider was just scared and needed to go back to it's family, just as they would if they were lost.
They children were no longer scared of the insect after they saw that it did not hurt me. They hurried around the room looking for other "lost" bugs and wanted to save them as well. We made an "insect transportation and re-location" plastic tub and kept it for future finds.
Unfortunately, the director asked me not to return, and did not see the valuable lesson of respecting other life forms. The daycare offers pig wrestling and rodeo support, and the children are not allowed to drink anything but milk while they are there, and are not allowed a vegetarian option. They eat meat at every meal, although none of the children know what meat is or where it comes from.
Even so, the message got to the children and they are now "saving" bugs instead of killing them. I made sure to caution them as to not wanting to keep them as pets, as this was their first reaction to seeing one up close, instead of yelling for an adult to kill it. They learned to just let it go back outside and to try not to hurt it.
Anti-cruelty begins at a young age, but it takes informed adults to start the trend. Although the schools don't support it yet, if the parents are educated and teach their children individually, at least by the time the next generation comes around, we have a good start. If the parents don't want the children to know the truth, they have other ways of getting the information now via the Internet and sites like this one.
I have started a program in my area to educate about anti-abuse of animals, and although it does not make me popular in an area where children are taught to hunt, ranch, and participate in rodeos at a very young age, it's needed here. It has to start somewhere.
Posted by Michele McCowan on 09/06/2009 @ 12:00PM PT
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Michelle, what you did was wonderful.
Posted by Gary Loewenthal on 09/07/2009 @ 09:40AM PT
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You are SOOOOO right on.
I know... this breaks my heart every day. Animals live for pleasure and avoid pain as we do.
And motherhood, loving your young, is perhaps the greatest pleasure of all, for animals, too.
That little calf will NEVER have that greatest of pleasures.
My sadness is with yours.
Posted by Cdin Org on 09/06/2009 @ 02:46PM PT
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So very true. A friend posted a photo on Facebook of a mama pig and her nursing piglets at the state fair, and it just made me so sad.
Posted by Shannon Davis on 09/06/2009 @ 04:46PM PT
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Hearbreaking post. So many times when I tell people I'm a vegan they say, well that is fine for YOU but if you have kids someday surely you wouldn't raise them that way, would you?
Of course I will! Why not!?!? YOU raise your kids to be completely ignorant about where their food comes from and contribute mindlessly to the slaughter of our fellow creatures! And my choice is wrong because....?
Children have such innately good hearts, they usually know right away (upon explanation) that killing animals is bad! Why else do you think their parents try so hard to hide it from them?
Posted by The Voracious Vegan . on 09/06/2009 @ 11:36PM PT
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My sister asked me the same thing just the other day! I was stunned, as though my kids will be at a disadvantage for being raised vegan. *eye roll*
Posted by Shannon Davis on 09/07/2009 @ 04:44AM PT
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Michele, that was fantastic! Brilliant insights. I'm an insect saver as well. I'm still dealing with my last nemesis, the Mosquito! That is a tough one to be indifferent to. I do my best though! : )
Posted by Jon Evans on 09/07/2009 @ 09:44AM PT
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Thanks, and you're right! Mosquitos are tough. I am very fortunate that I rarely get bitten and can usually brush them away if they land on me.
I don't have to use bug repellant at all.
For those that do, there is a really great soap called Bug Off (made by Cedar Creek) that works great. It is a green, organic, all natural company. It is environmentally safe and good for children as well. You use the soap to wash with before hiking or camping out and it keeps the mosquitos off. You can find them on-line.
http://www.cedarcreekproducts.com/Index.html
Posted by Michele McCowan on 09/07/2009 @ 11:54AM PT
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I hope more people go vegan soon. I think a lot of people can eat meat only becaus ethey are so far from the killing. If more people saw what happens in slaughterhouses, like me, I'm sure they would never be able to consume animal products ever again.
Posted by Cherida Hivale on 09/07/2009 @ 10:38PM PT
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I agree that there is horror that goes on in many slaughterhouses, I have seen it. But on the other hand, I believe in Happy meat. My family and I raise and process our own meat for our own use because we can't justify the abuse that occurs in mass production farms. We love, adore and spoil our animals and when their time comes, we know that they had good lives and were treated humanely.
Posted by Seneca Corriveau on 09/28/2009 @ 05:44PM PT
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Seneca, I have a friend who is horrified at the idea of killing horses but raises goats to sell for slaughter and breeds his cows in order to raise his own meet. He and his wife name the mother cows and will never slaughter them, but don't name the baby steers because they will eventually be killing them.
I see how you and he justify your "happy meat" position: your cattle and his cattle have had a great life. But I don't see how you and he can be so callous as to take the life of your friends, when they would never do that to you, when you don't "need" their flesh, and when it is only cultural tradition that makes you think there's nothing wrong with doing so.
If you hadn't been raised in a society that has for generations killed animals for food, you would not think that it was normal or decent, but would, I believe, see it as cruel, irrational, and a betrayal of your innocent friends.
Posted by Olivia White on 09/29/2009 @ 08:39AM PT
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The difference, I believe, is that I don't view myself as an equal to animals. God, in His infinite wisdom, declared on the 6th Day of creation that we should ..."rule over the fish of the sea & the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground." Genesis 1:26
Please don't misunderstand my intentions. I don't, in any way, seek to condem or manipulate ones own opinions or choices. I only wish to defend one sided thinking... I think that quite often people only see what is desired to be seen, which is not always the whole picture. I've done research, seen the horrific videos of slaughterhouses and animal torture, they make me sick and full of heartache! I also want them stopped! What that does change for me is that I can do better. I care about what goes into my body and my families as well so we change what we can. That is why we raise our own meat, a steer & a pig. We also raise chickens free range for eggs and have goats for milk. There is no horror story here, just a Back to Basics Farm where we raise our children honorably with free thinking and simplicity. We want for nothing and have an abundance of love to go around.
Posted by Seneca Corriveau on 09/29/2009 @ 09:08AM PT
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Hi again Seneca,
When a human defends every animal's right to live for that animal's own purposes, that is not "one-sided" thinking. It is well-rounded thinking.
When a human cares more about what goes into her body than whether she is needlessly killing a "who" (not a "what"), THAT is one-sided thinking.
When a parent raises a child with honor, with simplicity and with free thinking, that would mean that the child has the right to decide whether to kill her animal friends for her own "benefit." Is that what your children have done for as long as they have been able to think for themselves: chosen to kill and eat their friends? I doubt it, unless they were following your parental example, your precepts, your behest.
And as for your concept of dominion, from Genesis 1, I would kindly refer you to two often-overlooked verses (29 and 30) in the same chapter. I never noticed them until a few short years ago. There, our good Creator makes it clear that the ultimate in His harmonious, "very good" creation, or kingdom, is NO violence. That all of us, humans and animals, can subsist and in fact will thrive ONLY on the fruit of the earth.
By any sane person's definition, killing another sentient being is violence. Cultural differences aside, if killing a cat is violent, then killing a cow must be equally a form of violence.
In other words, NO violence, NO killing, only peaceful coexistence, is the spiritual and moral and ethical norm for ALL of this Creator's offspring, bar none. And I have to believe we'll attain that harmony and unity ONLY when we individually quit rationalizing our "use" of animals for our supposed gain.
We're not doing ourselves any favors by teaching our children that animals are inferior. We're only sacrificing innocence (ours, theirs, and the animals) at the altar of self-justification, greed, and ignorance.
I didn't used to understand these ideas. I was ignorant. I'm still outgrowing ignorance, as I let in more of the light of Love, of Life, of Truth. I've been told by long-time friends that I'm a MUCH kinder person to humans now that I've embraced ALL animals as my equals, my friends.
Animals may not have the comprehension, the comprehensiveness, the complexity, that humans have been given. (Are we using that comprehension to benefit all creation, or perverting it for our own self-serving purposes?)
But animals sure possess (even if it hasn't come to full bloom in each one of them yet) the same degree of love, loyalty, courage, fairness, respect, forgiveness, compassion, generosity, and integrity with which humans are endowed.
I'm not attempting to change your mind, Seneca, but I am defending what I've come to see as a higher way of looking at all life. Higher because more meek and merciful. More childlike. More Christlike. More real.
Posted by Olivia White on 09/29/2009 @ 09:58AM PT
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Drives through the country have never been the same since I became "aware". I can never take joy in seeing the cows while knowing what's next for them.
Posted by Jay Halvorson on 09/08/2009 @ 06:16AM PT
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I know what you mean... When I drive past cows now, I tell them (sometimes out loud, sometimes silently) that many people, including I, are doing everything we can to make their lives better, and to one day free them from human-inflicted suffering and untimely death.
Posted by Gary Loewenthal on 09/08/2009 @ 07:42PM PT
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If you are driving past the cows Gary you are using beef by products to do so. Brake fluid, asphalt, steel ball bearings, car upholstery, plastic molds, and lots of other things come from cows.
You can not use a car, truck, airplane, or bus without using cattle parts! You are helping keep meat prices low by providing extra markets for the slaughterhouses.
Posted by Joe Arnold on 09/10/2009 @ 12:02PM PT
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Cows aren't killed so that automobile parts can be derived from them--they're killed for food and fashion. Striking at the root by not supporting those two industries is what will help the problem; all the other derivatives will be eliminated when the prices make animal-based materials competitive with non-animal products.
Posted by Kyle Key on 09/11/2009 @ 04:09AM PT
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Anything you purchase from the chain supports the entire chain is my point. This is true if it is half a percent of the chain or 50%. Of course, meat and milk is what drives the cattle industry. If we remove beef and dairy the rest of the chain from fashion to medicines would become price restrictive for most Americans. Unfortunately, most people do not how many animal products they use every day - that was my point of the previous post.
Posted by Joe Arnold on 09/11/2009 @ 09:31AM PT
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This picture speaks so much louder than words! So heartbreaking. Truly.
I can't tell you how much better I feel both physically and mentally since going vegan! I know I am doing my part to help animals! :-)
Posted by Kathy Jackson on 09/08/2009 @ 07:06AM PT
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This reminds me of a recent news story about the Queensland RNA (Royal National Agricultural) show. A beaming child (a pre-schooler) was telling a reporter how excited he was to have touched a real live lamb. I immediately thought "How is he going to feel, when he realizes that lambs next trip to the Big City is going to be as chops" Heartbreaking.
Posted by Steve Davis on 09/10/2009 @ 08:06PM PT
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I am sorry, but ya'll need to get out in the real world. Most wild animals live short hard lives. And die violently. That is fact. Life is hard. Everything dies. Death is not pretty no matter the method. There is nothing inhumane about killing to eat. It is Nature's way. The only reason the animals at Sanctuary get to live to a ripe old age is because people make it so, by their work or their money, which amounts to the same thing. I am not a factory farm advocate, in fact I despise them, but then look at our cities, they are the equivalent. And if you live, you use resources, you take up land, air, water, and countless other elements. If an animal is a food animal, it is going to live to feed something, whether you like it or not.
Posted by Diane Miller on 09/13/2009 @ 11:01AM PT
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You raised a lot of interesting points, but the issue at stake is simple: eating animal products results in unnecessary suffering and we can each choose not to support that suffering.
Posted by Kyle Key on 09/13/2009 @ 02:17PM PT
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Kyle, no it does not. The abolition of horse slaughter has added greatly to the suffering. Starvation, abandonment, shipping greater distances to unregulated slaughter. There are many necessary "evils" in this world. The reason for most of the suffering is because there are too many people and because of the economics of scale. Both contribute to factory farming, and vegans be aware of the scorched earth policies in California to "protect" the "organic" integrity of your factory farmed bagged salads.
http://www.americanchronicle.com/articles/view/111523
The answer to most of the problems is to go local. Local is smaller, more personal, kinder to the animals and the plants and the environment.
If you want to see vicious, watch a flock of chickens for awhile.
As for the bellowing of mamas and babies being separated, prey animals have very short memories. They are designed that way, so that when their young is eaten by a predator in the wild, the female will forget quickly and be ready to breed again promptly.
In some parts, species are being saved by finding ways for humans to exploit them, that makes them useful and so propogates the species. We humans are basically vicious animals too.
Posted by Diane Miller on 09/13/2009 @ 09:31PM PT
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The only relevant criteria for the animals in question is that they have a capacity to feel pain and experience subjective suffering. As such, if we feel that we should consider the interests of humans because they suffer, we should also consider the interests of the animals with that characteristic, to avoid contradicting our own moral code.
Unless there are absolutely no alternatives, I wouldn't slit someone's throat, human or animal, and I don't want to pay someone else to do something that I wouldn't do myself. Does that seem reasonable to you?
Posted by Kyle Key on 09/13/2009 @ 10:05PM PT
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Diane, In some ways I agree with you, in others, I disagree.
When you live closely with animals and observe them with a discerning and sensitive eye, you will be aghast at their capacity to feel and indicate cognitive abilities.
We humans, cruel and often blind monkeys that we are, choose to ignore much of this for our convenience. Although we humans are a savvy and crafty species, we are also very ignorant.
Ignorant to the excruciating suffering we impose upon animals.
When animals are killed in the wild, more likely than not they are strangled or suffocated. Their deaths are "relatively" quick, and they often go into shock.
With strangulation, they are likely to experience the "white light" which I can tell you I have personally experienced.
No matter brain chemicals or not, Nature has it's own more "lenient" method of dispatch.
But yes, Nature allows for unmitigated suffering.
As for species being saved for the sake of exploitation, I find that interminably sad. It speaks of a bitterness and twist that goes against the most basic principals all animals subscribe to - the love of freedom, the love to mate, to rear young, to experience freedom to roam and run, swim and fly.
I TOTALLY agree with you that elimination of horse slaughter has CREATED A MUCH GREATER EVIL.
The transportaion of horses to Mexico or Canada, with no food, no water, terror, darkness, cruel viciousness when they arrive half mad with thirst, is UNSPEAKABLE.
YES. We should go local. I joined Localvore although who has time these days... so many things to garner our attention.
Prey animals suffer acutely and long term.
In this thing we call life, all living creatures are precious.
But, we can choose the dark side, to delight in the suffering of others, to ignore the pain we cause.
It's our choice.
Posted by Cdin Org on 09/13/2009 @ 10:59PM PT
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Cdin,
I live closely with animals and have done so for the last 20 years on a 24/7 basis. Only recently has that association turned to food animals. Food animals, in a perfect world, i.e. in nonfactory farm situations, trade comfort and security for freedom and uncertainty. Much like we Americans are doing at the moment.
Animals are capable of suffering, but they are not capable of the range on emotions that humans are. They are not moral, especially chickens, they do not feel regret, they are sublime opportunists, and they have a great capacity to accept the moment as it is. They do feel stress, and like us, long term stress will wear on them, but they do not feel angst. They have expectations, but no true understanding of future.
You say: But, we can choose the dark side, to delight in the suffering of others, to ignore the pain we cause.
I do not delight in the suffering of others, never have never will. I feel sorry for the PEOPLE who work in slaughterhouses and are surrounded continuously with killing. I cannot imagine the toll it takes on them. The animals' stress and anxiety are short. Slaughter is not torture. Slaughter is killing for food. Very few critters, human or otherwise, get to die peacefully of old age. It is a fact. Death is not easy, NO MATTER how it is achieved, but it is inevitable.
You say: Prey animals suffer acutely and long term.
Wrong. Factory farming is the enemy, not farming. And prey animals in the wild suffer daily stress and discomfort. Well kept farm animals have it cushy by comparison. Badly kept farm animals are just that, badly kept.
You say: It's our choice.
Domesticated animals decided long ago to associate with humans because of the benefits they, the animals achieved. Comfort, food and security, and through that increase of the species. Believe me, if the animals don't want to be associated with humans, they would not be. That is why there are so few, truly domestic, animals. I work long hard days, EVERY DAY, in all weathers, whether I want to or not, whether I am well or sick, to care for the animals on my farm. And believe me, if they didn't want to be here, they would leave, especially the chickens and turkeys that are completely free ranging, and subject to predation by the local hawks. The horses and cows can easily take down the fencing, the pigs could jump the fence. They choose not to, and if they do get out, they come home to the barn, where it is safe and secure and there is plenty of food.
Posted by Diane Miller on 09/14/2009 @ 05:49PM PT
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Kyle,
I understand that you don't want to kill. But you do not have to. You can go to the grocery store and buy food. That has not always been the case, and in my view, shortly, will no longer be the case. You will have to discover for yourself how deep your convictions go when you are faced with going hungry or killing to eat.
Posted by Diane Miller on 09/14/2009 @ 05:52PM PT
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Perhaps you misunderstood--I said that I don't want to pay someone to do something that I wouldn't do, and "[going] to the grocery store and [buying] food" is doing just that.
It really is a simple choice. Humans don't need animals for nutrition or gustatory pleasure. That animals can suffer is a biological fact; since its unnecessary for the vast majority of people, the only moral choice is to avoid inflicting that suffering.
Posted by Kyle Key on 09/14/2009 @ 09:15PM PT
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Kyle,
Do you grow all of your own food?
Posted by Diane Miller on 09/15/2009 @ 05:07AM PT
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