The Breaking of Bonds and the "Sad, Sorrowful Bellowing"
Published April 02, 2009 @ 03:11PM PT

Kelly of easyVegan.info wrote a post titled "A cow is so much like a woman" the other day. She wrote much in relation to Jeff Masson's The Pig Who Sang to the Moon: The Emotional World of Farm Animals (yes, it did occur to me as I wrote that just now that I plugged Jeff Masson's newest book already earlier today--you can go a head and call it Jeff Masson day around here, I suppose), but she also wrote about some personal experiences that struck me. And they are worth sharing.
When we moved to Kansas, we managed to find a house for rent on 80 acres of land; our landlord inherited the place when her father died, rusty farm equipment, horses, cows and all. She lived just down the street, so she and her husband decided to fix the house up, rent it out, and keep the “beef cattle” operation going. When you think of a small, family farm, probably you imagine a farm similar to this place.
The acreage was divided into three large grazing pastures, as well as a smaller “holding pen” which shared a fenceline with our fenced-in backyard. After the calves were birthed, the mothers and their young were separated from the rest of the herd, confined to that smaller pen, supposedly so the males wouldn’t attack the youngsters, I guess. I used to spend hours playing with the dogs in the backyard, watching the mama cows nurse their babies. Many of the cows were accustomed to human interaction, so they’d usually watch me back. (The newborns, of course, were understandably skittish.) Some of the older cows took an interest in the dogs, and would come over and sniff at them as they ran (or, in Ralphie’s case, dug) along the fenceline. To say that they enjoyed playing together wouldn’t be a product of my silly, sentimental wimmin’s imagination.
Other times, when cows were sold (whether to other farmers or slaughter operations, I know not - I was afraid to ask), the unlucky “merchandise” was placed in the pen a day or two beforehand. Many times, the calves were the ones slated to be sold off; it wasn’t uncommon to see a dozen youngish calves sequestered in the pen together, all of them wailing for their mothers. Meanwhile, a dozen females might be gathered along the perimeter of the nearest pasture, bellowing right back at their babies, trying in vain to lure them back into their protective custody. This would go on for hours on end, with few breaks - even during the night. The scene dragged on - slowly, sadly - until the calves were ferried away; usually, you could still hear a few plaintive bellows days or weeks later.
And I was only an observer of the abuse, not a victim. I can only begin to imagine the depths of the grief suffered by the mothers and babies alike. It’s heart-wrenching. To this day, I can still recall - quite vividly, mind you - the sad, sorrowful bellowing.
We live in Missouri, now, and a cattle farmer rents the pasture on one side of our house. I don’t have the pleasure of watching the mothers with their children anymore; this herd is more wary of humans, and rightfully so. But I can tell when he’s separated the mothers from their children - during these days and weeks, the long, low, mournful, melancholy bellows echo up the valley and through the treeline.
If I weren’t already a vegan, these cries of despair surely would persuade me.
I ask that vegetarian readers please remember that this terrible breaking of bonds between mother and child on farms raising cattle for their flesh takes place in the dairy industry as well; indeed, the dairy industry is built on this breaking of bonds, over and over throughout the cow's life: you have to rip the calf away from his or her mother (and most often send that calf to almost immediate slaughter) if you want the mother's milk for yourself. What you've just read is just a much milder version of what cows exploited for dairy and calves killed for veal suffer. And whether we're inflicting this heartbreak and sorrow on animals for their flesh or for their milk, it's all just so wrong.
Photo courtesy of Kelly
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Thanks for linking to me, Stephanie!
I love living around nature and non-human animals, but of course there's a trade-off; in the Midwest, today's animal neighbors are likely to be tomorrow's dinner (well, someone else's, anyway). It's been incredible, interacting with cows, horses, sheep, etc. (not to mention the wild deer, turkeys, geese, hurons...), getting to know and appreciate them as individuals, but also knowing that the cow your furkid is playing with will most likely be a Whopper before the year is up. Heartbreaking.
And if any vegetarians out there are *still* on the fence re: milk, check out the recent Gentle Barn newsletter I crossposted tonight. Awful stuff.
As for eggs, that's my next Masson excerpt ;)
Posted by Kelly Garbato on 04/02/2009 @ 08:38PM PT
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Becoming vegan 2 years ago was the best decision of my life. I'd been lacto-vegetarian for over a decade, not realising, rather not wanting to face up to, the cruelty involved in dairy "production."
There's a certain freedom that comes with being vegan. I highly recommend it to all ethical vegetarians - take it to the next level, you won't regret it.
Posted by Lisa Smolen on 04/02/2009 @ 09:06PM PT
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I can completely empathize with these bellowing cows - as I'm sure any woman, mother, human, whose has been separated or lost a loved one. Though I didn't give birth to my furbaby, Copper, I did raise him from 6 weeks old for almost 9 years when he died of a brain tumor. It was 4 months ago that we were parted, and my heart still bellows out for him. If I wasn't already vegan, this article would've certainly changed me.
Posted by Sara Turk on 04/03/2009 @ 11:31AM PT
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I think Sara points to something very important here. "Animal rights" is inherently a Feminist issue. From the exploitation detailed above, to the idea of linked oppressions – sexism, speciesism – feminists should look very hard at their reinforcement of patriarchy through their decision to eat the body parts of another animal.
Posted by Alex Melonas on 04/05/2009 @ 01:02PM PT
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As a dairy farmer I feel the need to state a couple of facts. The bellowing that you refer to actually end within hours of the calf being removed, or at least it should be. Most often on a dairy farm the calf is removed within 2-5 hours of birth, allowing enough time for the calf and cow to bond. The calf is moved to an appropriate facility where the calf recieves top notch care. The cow is moved to another facility to be cared for as well. Farmers put their cows first, I know we do. Please contact your local dairy farmers to learn more about how much we care for our girls :)
Posted by Shannon Seifert on 04/08/2009 @ 10:28PM PT
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Now there's a company line if ever I've seen one.
I've heard and read numerous more objective observers report on the grieving of mother cows, grieving that often lasts much longer than a couple hours, and frankly, I have more trust in their word.
And please, Shannon, if you're going to make remarks such as this--"The calf is moved to an appropriate facility where the calf recieves top notch care. . . Farmers put their cows first, I know we do"--consider that an animal rights blog isn't where you're likely going to get by with it. "Top notch" and "appropriate" care for a calf would be with his or her mother, drinking the milk meant by nature for his or her nourishment, not meant for human consumption and certainly not meant by nature for human profit. "Appropriate" care for calves as defined by the dairy and veal industry is "efficient" care, not about what's best for the calves. And slaughter during infanthood isn't what I'd call "top notch" or "appropriate" either.
That dairy industry participants can say with a straight face, and really believe in some cases, that they "put their cows first" never stops astonishing me. I'm sorry, Shannon, but if that were true, the cows wouldn't be "dairy" cows. They wouldn't be forcibly impregnated, they wouldn't repeatedly have their babies torn away from them just after birth, they wouldn't be exploited, confined, and in most cases treated like machines, and they wouldn't be killed in horrific slaughterhouses when they stopped being profitable. What comes first in the dairy industry is profit. That's the nature of business.
Posted by Stephanie Ernst on 04/08/2009 @ 11:22PM PT
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OK, in retrospect, I'm a bit sorry that I took the tone that I did. Perhaps, Shannon, you're a farmer who really does believe what you've written here, who really just hasn't realized yet that what you're saying isn't actually true. There are a surprising number of animal ag veterans, including former dairy farmers, who now advocate for animals but who once did believe what you do, just as most committed vegans once held a very different set of beliefs and assumptions, like I did. So maybe you came here and posted simply to contribute a PR remark, knowing it's not true, or maybe you really believe what you wrote. I don't know. But I do hope you'll reconsider and ponder the possibility that you're wrong.
Posted by Stephanie Ernst on 04/08/2009 @ 11:35PM PT
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I can assure you that I am a dairy farmer with a heart. We milk 100 cows, I know every one of them by name. My remark is not for PR but to stand up for myself and the job that I love. Believe me, it is heartbreaking to look into those blue eyes and know that I can't help out one of my "girls". I cry anytime we have to send a cow to slaughter, or when we lose one to illness. It's a sad day on our farm, for me and my husband both when we lose one of the herd.
As for the cow/calf issue: I can assure you on our farm, our calves are well taken care of, with lots of love. The calf is removed to prevent the transfer of bacteria to the cow's udder (which would cause mastitis-infection of the udder) and the transfer of bacteria to the calf (which causes digestive illnesses). Our calves are fed milk from cows for the first 3 days of their lives. After that we switch them to a milk replacer. The cow is moved to a special pen where she can focus on eating, drinking, resting and recooperating after calving. If she were with her calf yet, she would focus on the calf instead of herself. I can admit that there are a few bad apples in this industry, but as a whole the dairy industry cares about their cows, if we didn't we wouldn't make any money farming. Because if you visited a dairy farm, you would learn that happy comfortable cows make profitable cows. It's the way it works...the better job farmers do taking care of their cows the better returns we have on our investments....the cows. They are a non-renewable resource we have to take care of....so I guess I won't admit that I am wrong, just that I care and until you can walk in my shoes you may never see that.
Posted by Shannon Seifert on 04/10/2009 @ 09:24PM PT
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Shannon, I think there is a HUGE difference between small farmers and industrialized factory farms. If things would go back to being family owned/operated businesses, then we wouldn't have the horrible conditions that we see at the factories.
You even said it that your cows get sent to slaughter. If you're a smaller operation, can't you euthanize them or find an alternative to the slaughterhouse?
Like you said, I won't ever walk in your shoes, but constructive and compassionate dialogue is the closest we'll get.
Posted by Lisa Smolen on 04/11/2009 @ 01:38PM PT
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Lisa, I understand your intentions, but I'm going to disagree about the "huge difference."
A small farm such as Shannon's may differ in terms of methods and in terms of the degree of suffering and exploitation, but the cruel fundamentals are the same: cows are impregnated, their calves are cruelly stripped away from them, the calves are fed substandard formula until being brutally killed, and ultimately, when the cows stop being profit-making machines, they're killed too.
Calves are not taken away from their mothers after one hour or one day or three days for the benefit of cow and calf--those calves would naturally nurse for 6-12 months or longer, and it's remarkable that the dairy industry can argue it's in the mother and child's interest that they separate them (or why aren't human babies pulled away from their mothers after a couple days?). Calves are taken away from their mothers because that's the business of dairy--impregnating mother cows so that they will produce milk for their calves and then taking the calves away and, most often, slaughtering them while they are newborns, so that humans can have the cows' milk, for which humans have no nutritional need.
"If she were with her calf yet, she would focus on the calf instead of herself."
Yes, Shannon, and that says it all, doesn't it? That's what this whole post was about--the forcible, cruel, unnecessary breaking of the bond between mother and child, for human profit. The cow should be focusing on both herself and her calf after birth. That's natural. Forgive my bluntness, but the dairy industry's concern is not the mother's well-being; it is well-being of the bottom line--the concern is getting the mother away into steady milk production for human profit.
And even if the cows were being "euthanized" rather than sent to slaughter when they stopped producing enough milk to be profitable, the industry wouldn't be any more humane. The industry would still be predicated on the cruelty of what's done to mother and young, on taking from cows what is not ours to take, on killing countless baby and even newborn calves, and on ultimately killing mother cows at a fraction of their natural life span.
But I believe you that you care, Shannon (though I think you're being either naive or dishonest about how many "bad apples" there are in the industry). I even believe that you may cry as you watch the cows heading off to horrible slaughter. But the flip clearly hasn't switched all the way over yet. If it pains you so to see the cows head toward the slaughterhouse, and you really do care as much as you say you do about the cows and their calves, it's time to start exploring another area of work.
Posted by Stephanie Ernst on 04/11/2009 @ 02:49PM PT
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Thanks Stephanie. I was mostly referring to the "size" of the operations. Of course the idea of pastures vs. filth. Bottom line is still bottom line, though.
Posted by Lisa Smolen on 04/11/2009 @ 03:05PM PT
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Lisa: I guess we view slaughter as a form of recycling. This way the animal is not wasted, and used for other items. It's a continuance of the food chain. If we didn't eat them, the coyotes and wolves would eat them. Also we do not have drugs that the USDA has approved to euthanize animals. Our only alternative is to put a bullet in their head and compost their bodies or sell them to a factory which makes dog and cat food. We would rather watch the cow leave the farm standing up rather than as a dead body.
As for size, 99% of all dairy farms in the United States are family owned. Regardless of size, dairies are family owned, many of which support multiple families (father, son, uncles, cousins). Our own farm has about 200 cows, 100 of our own and 100 that are my father in law's. At face value it would be a "large farm" to you, to the dairy industry we are a small farm (less than 300 cows is "small"). In the dairy industry larger farms have the ability to afford better technology and employees to watch their cows, and actually do a better job taking care of their animals. As for the "bad apples" that I refer to, that refers to farms regardless of size. I know of small farms that I would never think about drinking milk from their farms, but I know 1000 cows dairies that I would trust. It depends on the dairyman in charge. As a whole I believe that our industry is listening to consumers and making changes to promote better animal welfare and milk quality. Stay tuned for good things coming, but know that we have been doing a great job for years.
Stephanie: I am sorry that you believe we are harming the cows and calves by moving them. Believe it or not, the longer the calf stays with the cow, the greater the chance of calf death. If allowed to suckle the cow, the calf will contract a digestive disease such as e-coli, or salmonella (both of which can be deadly to the calf). No matter how clean of an environment a calf is born in, germs are still there. Often dairies sterilize the calving pens to help reduce transfer of these germs. Dairy cows are not beef cows, they are not as strong of a breed therefore if they spend more time focusing on the calf the cow will not eat her feed, she will not drink water or even take the time to pass her placenta. Reduced intake of feed and water will lead to displaced abomasums (stomach), milk fever, and ketosis (energy deficiency). If the cow does not pass her placenta she will most definitely contract an infection and become very ill. Dairymen step in to make sure the cow takes care of herself first: eating, drinking and taking time to passher placenta, while the farmer takes care of the calf. The calf could be given cow's milk, but it would need to be pasteurized first to make sure that it is safe for the calf to drink. Many larger dairies are currently feeding pastuerized cows' milk to their calves.
As for my personal feelings, I knew you would take that stance. I continue my profession to prove to animal rights activists such as yourself, that we do in fact have the animals' best interests in mind. I work hard each day to make sure that my cows live full and happy lives. I can proudly state that our oldest cows are over 10 years old, exceeding the average lifetime of a Holstein cow. Keeping our cows healthy and happy is in our best interests as well as the cows. I do love the work that I do because I get to work with beautiful animals, each with their own personalities so whether I milk 100 or 1000 cows I will still love what I do. Thanks for your concern regardless.
I remind you that cows are still animals and not humans, but we still treat them with respect. Also as animals, cows would be food for other animals in the wild if we did not take care of them. It is the circle of life.
Posted by Shannon Seifert on 04/13/2009 @ 09:29PM PT
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Thanks for enlightening me about the dairy cow industry. There is so much to learn. I recently became a vegetarian, but have not given up dairy yet. I'm a work in progress. Getting there, but I need the facts and a better option to replace milk. Please help. What kind of product is best?
Help me turn Vegan...please. I need more information.
One step at a time... when we know better...we live better.
I did not know enough about the treatment of dairy cows. This article was a big wake-up call for me. Thanks.
Posted by Michele McCowan on 05/28/2009 @ 09:59PM PT
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Hi Michele! There are so many great alternatives to milk these days. My personal favorite is hemp milk (bonus because it contains omegas) and almond milk. My sister loves oat milk, and makes her own oat/almond blend milk. If you want something to sub for a heavy cream (like in baking or such), there's MimicCreme and/or coconut milk - both work equally well in my experience. I'm not a fan of the flavor of soy milk, but that's always an option too. For other dairy items like yogurt, they have the soy yogurts and I've recently discovered So Delicious Coconut Milk yogurt (and it is so delicious). Hope this helps!
Posted by Sara Turk on 05/29/2009 @ 08:38AM PT
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Thanks to everyone that sent me alternatives to try! I'm going to look for the non-dairy groceries tomorrow.
I appreciate all of the help and an excited to get started. Great information from people who have been through this themselves.
Posted by Michele McCowan on 05/29/2009 @ 09:12AM PT
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Hi, Michele. I'm sorry that I wasn't able to respond to all your comments & questions in a timely fashion, but I'm glad others have been helping out--please keep using us a resource whenever and however much you need! :) Do check out some of the informative online resources too, which include lots of tips and info for making the transition (www.chooseveg.com and www.tryveg.com are a couple options).
Posted by Stephanie Ernst on 05/31/2009 @ 08:42PM PT
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Thank you Shannon for being a wonderful farmer. Your cows are LUCKY.
Posted by Cdin Org on 09/06/2009 @ 02:51PM PT
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There is nothing “lucky” about being the property of someone else. Nothing “humane” about treating other sentient beings like commodities. Humans do not need to participate in such injustices; we can survive without consuming meat, dairy, eggs, or other animal products. To continue to do so for selfish reasons, whether it be enjoyment or profit, is cruel. It also does not matter “how” a sentient being is being exploited and killed; the issue is that they ARE being exploited and killed. Forgive me, but I seriously doubt anyone would suggest that a child--or dog, even--who is beaten with a stick 15 times, versus 20 times with a club, is “lucky,” or that the treatment is “humane,” and that the abuser using the stick “puts their victim first” because they inflict less harm than the abuser using the club. Most people would wonder why the harm is being inflicted in the first place.
Stephanie:
Great post. I always enjoy reading what you have to say. It is very heartbreaking that these sensitive beings are subjected to such anguish and violence, and even more heartbreaking that their cries are ignored by those who want to remain comforted by the delusion that they are “just animals” who have no emotions or interests that warrant consideration by us, the supposedly rational and compassionate species.
Posted by Chelsea Dub on 09/12/2009 @ 11:39AM PT
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